I’ve been tossing and turning almost every night. Falling asleep is a struggle, and waking up in the wee hours of the morning makes me feel listless the whole day. This change in my routine makes me worry because I always feel tired, had become unproductive, and worse, it is starting to affect my relationship.
We Used To Share One Bed
As a couple, it is expected that you share a bed with your partner. It’s a beautiful feeling finding comfort sleeping alongside each other, but what if your partner could no longer stand the uneasy you, who keeps on moving and turning? What if he starts complaining about your snoring? Is this the end of your good night’s sleep?
Instead of causing my husband to feel tired too, and unfocused because of disturbed sleeping, my doctor recommended that it would be better to have separate bedrooms. It has become so distressing for me as I feel so alone.
Several experts agree that even though partners may fight over the sheets, the security that people feel from sleeping in the same bed with the person they love has great perks. — John Smith Ph.D.
Unsatisfied Married Life
I love snuggling whenever I hit the bed while telling my stories, everything that happened to my day. But the moment our doctor recommends that we have a separate bed and then the separate bedroom, a lot has changed. We need to do our talk while we are at the dinner table or while watching a movie, which seems less sweet and intimate because, after our conversation, we have to go to our separate beds. But I have to live up to it so as not to disturb my husband with my bad sleeping habits.
My husband sleeps faster and complains less regarding the quality of sleep he has, and I pity him for being very considerate of my sleep problems. I don’t want him to suffer because of me, so I only agree on the setting of sleeping in a separate room with him even though I miss our cuddling and pillow talk.
Make sure your bedroom is a calm space with a comfortable bed. Determine what type of pillows, sheets, and blankets are the most comfortable for you. — Megan MacCutcheon, LPC
Putting An End To The Misery Brought By Insomnia
My doctor recommended various treatments to cure my insomnia
- Relaxation exercises
- Lifestyle change
- Healthy before-bed habits
I did try some of them but to no avail. Failure to improve the quality of my sleep and feeling alone at night left me in a depressed mood besides having a less intimate moment with my husband.
Sleep deprivation brought by my insomnia caused me to gain weight, become less productive, and start troubles in our relationship. I can’t allow it to go on that way, so I tried all possible ways that could put an end to my misery.
One therapist told me to try re-organizing our bedroom besides meditation, lifestyle change, and practicing healthy habits before I go to bed.
A New Mattress. My tossing and turning plus the snoring awaken my husband that’s why he has to sleep in his own bed. A new mattress that absorbs movement, like the memory foam, can help contain movement on my side of the bed, thus, preventing disturbance in my husband’s sleep.
Keeping The Room Tidy. A cleanroom encourages good rest and sound sleep. For added enchantment, I make sure to spray a scent of lavender before we sleep. Lavender has shown to be useful in helping people fall asleep faster with lesser waking up at night.
Stop Your Snoring. I find it hard to fall asleep, and if I do, I often snore. I was actually unaware at first that I woke my husband up with my loud snoring. It was just when we visited my doctor for my insomnia that I found out. If you’re a snorer, you can try turning to one side to stop your tongue from caving into the back of your throat, blocking the proper flow of air creating the snoring sound. You can also try oral appliances to eliminate the snoring sound or see your doctor to rule out sleep apnea.
When we go to bed too early, odds are we won’t be ready to fall asleep. Most likely we’ll just have more time to lie in bed awake, feeling anxious and stressed, and reinforcing bed as a place of anxiety and unrest. — Seth J. Gillihan Ph.D.
Limit Your Bedroom Activity To Sleep And Sex. Buzzing sounds of phones are very annoying and often disrupts sleep. Also, the blue light from laptops, tablets, and phones is said to interrupt circadian rhythm, and falling back to sleep can be a struggle. If you want to bring back intimacy in your bedroom, it’s just but proper to turn off your gadgets and limit your bedroom activity to stuff that will make you and your partner happier and well-rested.
Sleep issue should be addressed as a serious problem. It is not just threatening your health but your relationship as well. Don’t allow your insomnia and snoring to cause you and your partner troubles right in your own bedroom because no one wants to wake up looking at a grumpy partner early in the morning. Snoring and insomnia can be treated medically or in a more natural way like meditation, lifestyle changes, healthy before-bedtime habits, and a bit of re-organization or restyling in your bedroom.
Follow these tips, and I hope you and your partner get a better night of good sex and undisturbed sleep!